3 Ways to Reset Your Day!

Ever have one of those days where it seems like the whole world is against you?  Red lights, people in your way etc.?  Or maybe you just have bad timing and things don't seem to be going right?  Maybe you feel like this has been your whole life?

Have you ever considered that you are just out of harmony with the Universe?  This is actually a simple thing to change!  First, be aware that it is happening.  Once you recognize that you are out of sync with your surroundings, there are a few things you can do to correct it!  Consider that everything is energy.  When things seem to be going wrong, it's simply your energy out of sync with the Universe, your surroundings and what you want.

I call it a Universal Reset!  Here are a couple of different things to try:

1)  Ask yourself what you want?  Say out loud "I want _________." and fill in the blank.  Say as many things as you like around what you want - the more specific the better.  You can even give it quantum power by writing it down or even better writing down a list of what you want for your day!

2)  Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths, then see yourself getting into the flow of the Universe.  I sometimes refer to it as the flow of life.  Where things come easy and everything falls into place.  I like to say to myself - "I am in the right place at the right time."  Then, I feel myself shift into going with the flow.  Look at it like shifting your energy to match what you want from the Universe.  Seeing ease all around me, with perfect unity and harmony in everything that I do.

Sounds kind of simple and maybe even corny to some, but I swear it works like a charm for me every time.

3)  Take some deep breaths, with each exhalation visualize and let go of everything that isn't working for you today.  With each breath in you can breathe in a fresh supply of energy to bring yourself back into harmony with all of your surroundings.  Just try it!  It is free and if anything it is certain to make you feel better.

Judgement - Is it healthy?

What I know Today is that it is challenging in society to avoid judgement.  What is judgement?  It is a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.  Discernment in our lives is good because it teaches us about what we like and what we don't like.  As creators we need to know what is right for us, so that we can attract more of the things we like into our lives.  This is healthy as long as we are keeping the reference to ourself as an individual as to what is right or wrong for us.  It is important to remember that what works for you may not be the best thing for someone else.

I am learning, as a teacher of self care and personal development, that judging things in life as good or bad, doesn't always serve us well.  Instead it is more healthy to look at things as how they are and accepting them for that.  Loving what is.  There is good that can come from every negative/bad situation, in fact bad situations can help you learn about yourself.  Every rose has it's thorn.

The point I want to put across here is that we are each doing the best we can with the knowledge, energy and information that is available to us in that moment.  When we look at the choices or actions of others and place negative judgement on them, we are giving that "thing" energy.  I always say that energy flows where attention goes.  So where are you putting your attention?

When you choose to see the good in everyone and everything that is what will grow from it.  I want you to remember that we also place judgement on ourselves - we can be our own worst critics.  So what are you judging about yourself?  Remember what I said about all of us just trying to do our best, and some days your best is going to be amazing, and other days not so much.  Trust that everything happens for a reason and that others can learn from the mistakes we make.

For today be aware of your judgements and try to allow understanding,  everyone really is doing the best they can right now and that includes you!

Exercise:

Take a nice deep breath, in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Let your belly rise and breathe nice and deep.   Do this several more times until you feel your tension in your neck and shoulders release, as you exhale I want you to release all of your current judgements of yourself or anyone else.  As you release those judgements see your breath leaving as a grey mist, releasing judgement, as you do see it go out of your entire body and energy field.

Take it a step further:

Now take another deep breath and let go of your past judgements either of yourself or anyone else, or even both if need be.  Set yourself free.  Really let it go, allow clarity to enter your mind in seeing some of the situations around you in a different light, with more empathy and compassion.  Now breathe in and let go of any bad feelings, guilt, or otherwise that is no longer serving you.  Let go of this non serving energy you are carrying within you.  Allow yourself to let go of the old, or anything that is no longer working for you.

Ultimate:

Now read this and after you do close your eyes and practice it.  Place your hand on your chest and focus on the energy of peace.  If you had peaceful energy within you what would that feel like?  Connect to it and make it real.  Now as you connect to the feeling of peace allow that feeling to expand to your entire body, let it flow.  Feel it from the top of your head to the tips of your toes, permeating every single cell in your body.  Say to yourself I am Peace and Peace is me, we are now one.  Peace is yours now, in the present moment and when ever you feel you need it, you can do this exercise and peace is yours!

Have an amazing day!

Be Selfish

What I know today is that I have worked with too many clients in the past who are living for everyone else, and have forgotten who is most important, and have lost who they are in the process!  Don't get caught up in the illusions of if I don't do this than who will?  Trust that there are many capable able bodies to step in and fill the gaps that are left after you step down, or away from a position.

If you aren't looking after you, then who is?  When we go through emergency procedures on an airplane, we are told to put our oxygen mask on first before assisting others.  I have said this before - you can't help anyone if you are passed out from lack of oxygen, right?

I want you to ask yourself if you are living in balance right now.  Our entire Universe is based on balance.  The seasons, night and day, our ecosystem etc.  When things are out of balance, for example,  too much rain, there is big trouble, and it can be disastrous!  The same goes for your activities in your life!

When I talk about Selfishness what it really means is "self-care."  You know what you need, and you must listen to those needs.  You are useless to anybody if you are sick or, even worse, dead!  I am being serious here.  If you are not taking care of your needs, you are draining yourself of your life force.  If your energy is depleted how can you possibly be serving or helping others?

Life is about balance.  You can not just breathe out, you must also breathe in!  So take a look into your life.  What is not balanced?  Are you giving too much love and not receiving it back?  Are you working too much and not experiencing enough play?  You know what is right for you, but are you listening?  It first starts in whispers.  

Please don't wait until there are screams - i.e.  your body telling you that you must listen, by stopping you with a serious illness, disease or a break-down.

Fear - Is It Stopping You From Achieving Your Dreams?

Our Greatest Fear —Marianne Williamson

it is our light not our darkness that most frightens us

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous,
talented and fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other
people won't feel insecure around you.

We were born to make manifest the glory of
God that is within us.

It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people
permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
What are you good at?  What are you here to accomplish?  What do you love to do?  What strengths do you have?
Ignite those strengths, accept who you are and let your light out.  The world needs you!  You are unique and special - you have the key to unlock certain people, they are waiting.  Are you ready to let your light shine so that you can empower others?  
Love yourself, accept yourself, and do what comes natural to you!  You DO deserve to be happy and joyful!
Have an amazing day!

Don't Stop Believing!

Do you have a dream?  Is there something you have always wanted to do, but just don't think it could possibly happen?  I watched a 10 minute video this weekend that is totally inspiring called Caine's Arcade - Click here to watch  It is totally inspiring to see how this little boy didn't give up on his dream of having his own arcade.  It only took one person to come along and help make this little boys dream come into reality!

It doesn't always happen how we think it will, because sometimes the Universe knows better than we do, what is a fit and what is not for us.  We are the only ones who limit ourselves.  We must take responsibility for how we feel and how we allow others to make us think and feel about where we are going on our paths in life.  What we are you striving to achieve here in this lifetime on earth?

If you think your dreams can't be achieved, it is time to look within.  The only person we can blame is ourselves.   When we allow the thoughts, perceptions and opinions of others to make us think and feel we can't have what we want, we are allowing them to disempower us.  I want you to know that if you want it bad enough, you can have it and you can do it.

Failure is an illusion we have known and experienced our whole lives.  What you need to know is that we have been looking at failure the wrong way!  Failure is our teacher - it teaches us what works and what doesn't, it should be teaching us how to reach further!

There is no such thing as perfection either, we have been fooled into thinking that all must be perfect.  Guess what?   Perfect doesn't exist, BUT because we all keep trying to achieve perfect, we continue to feel like failures.

No wonder so many of us give up!  Why even try if we know that it won't be perfect the first go around?  If it isn't going to be perfect in the first try it must mean we failed.  So why even start?  It is too risky and probably won't work out anyway!

We are missing the point.  Achieving our dreams is a process which helps us learn about ourselves and others along the way.  So I want to tell you, just get started, it doesn't have to be perfect!  Reaching for your dreams is a journey not a destination.  It is about enjoying the process as we create whatever it is that we want to create.  And guess what?  Your dream will likely change many times along the way as you figure out what you really like and what you don't.  Allow it to evolve, and have fun while you are at it!

What do you love to do?  What is your dream?  What is unique to you? Remember that what you enjoy and love to do matches your purpose.  It should be easy for you, it should be fun, and enjoyable, utilizing all of your strengths.

So are you continuing to live the old story of your life, that you can't do it or it will never work?   Or are you ready to change your story to - I can and I will, so when you come to the end of your life you can look back and say, I did it, I did everything I wanted to and what a ride it was!

What Do You Need Today?

I am going out on a limb here and going to do a powerful exercise with you.  It may be very new to you - all I ask is that you keep an open mind and just try it.  You have nothing to lose and everything to gain!

Ask yourself what you are needing or lacking in your life right now?  Take the first thing that comes to your mind.  Take a moment right now to stop, and if you can, block all distractions around you.  Take a few good deep breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Relax your shoulders, let your neck go loose, and free yourself from the tension in your body.  With each exhalation feel your body relax further.  Simply be aware of the tension and let it go, as you do your muscles will relax. 

Now ask yourself if you are open to receiving it (whatever it is that you are lacking), or are you blocking it?  So take a few more deep breaths and release any resistance you are carrying and allow yourself to be open to receiving it.  Whatever it is that you need, focus now on having it.  Is it love, confidence, affection?  Maybe it is a new relationship, job, etc.  Allow yourself to feel it within you as though you already have it.  What does the energy of what you need more of today feel like?  Feel the energy of that thing you are desiring.  How does it make you feel inside?

Relish in it, make it as real as you can.  You all of your senses.  Feel the energy of it come from within you and allow the energy of it to become stronger.  Let it flow all through your body as you relax all of your muscles and take it all in.  Allow yourself to shift your energy to accept it into your life.  Be aware of any blocks that you might have - see them being whisked away.  Free yourself of the blocks and allow what you are desiring  to come into your life!

You must allow in order to receive it.  Give yourself permission, it is ok!

Have an amazing day, and thank you for sharing this journey with me!

Are You Good Enough?

What I know Today is that everyone has vulnerabilities!  We all feel insecure at times, and that is a normal human condition.  Embrace it!  Allow yourself to embrace it.  Get to know it, and where it comes from.  When you face insecurity, you start to see that it only keeps a hold on you when you try to hide it.  When you face it, you free yourself from its grips!

Have you ever noticed how a baby is?  They are in the moment - content and happy.  They are not trying to be anything but be a baby.  They are not concerned with what happened yesterday or what is happening tomorrow.  They are not worried about how they look, what to do or say.  They are simply free to be who they are, and people love them!  Do you know why?  They have total self acceptance!  They know that they are enough exactly as they are.

I believe we strive too hard to be perfect.  There is no such thing as perfection!!  We learn from our mistakes.  Some amazing inventions have come from mistakes.  Did you know that Silly Putty was an invention gone wrong?  And that pretzels were a recipe that didn't turn out?

We try to control things too much.  There is too much structure in the world, where we try to fit ourselves into a certain box of perception.  What would happen if for one day you let go of control and allowed life to just flow through you?  To do things that make you feel good inside?  All while being relaxed, content and open to the possibilities of the day?

I know that I am tired of so much structure.  It is very draining to me, and I have lived this structured life up until now, trying to fit into the parameters of the expectations of others.  It isn't working for me.  I realize now that if I want different results in my life I must do things differently.  I used to believe that everyone else knew better than I did - about what was best for me.  I was giving my power away.  Expecting others to tell me what would be good.  Trying to be this and that, all while getting more confused, in hopes of achieving success.  I am learning that if I am to have huge success, I have to do it my way.   Then, success will be a match to who I am, and we can live in harmony together as one!

What I mean by this is that success will just be a part of me and I a part of it.  It will be a natural fit, and success will just happen.

Today I must remember that all that I am and who I am yet to become, is inside of me already.  My story and what I have learned so far has value to move others.  I may not connect with everyone and that is ok.  Not everyone is going to like me! That is ok too.  Who I am right now is enough.  What I have to offer could be life-changing for someone, so why am I hiding behind waiting for it to be perfect before I even get started?  There is no such thing as perfect!  It is an illusion that many of us have been hiding behind.  This hiding must stop for all of us, as it is holding your gifts from seeing the light of day.

Don't leave this world with your music still inside of you.  Your purpose is in alignment with who you are and what you love to do.  Connect with it and make your world a better place!