Working hard? How is that working for you?

I read a quote today that really got me thinking and fired up!  It said "Some People Dream of Success, While others Wake Up and Work Hard at it."  It got me thinking, is there truth in this statement?  For some yes, it may be true.  Richard Branson, Steve Jobbs, Bill Gates to name a few.  These people were doing something they loved, and are very good at what they do/did.  They did work hard, but maybe it was a love for what they did rather than forcing themselves to work at something that sucked their energy?

It got me thinking that maybe the first step to success should be asking ourselves what our personal definition of Success would be?  The dictionary says - a person or thing that has success by attainment of goals, wealth etc.  What if success had a different definition for each person as an individual?  What if your definition of success was different from mine?

My current definition of success?  Being happy with who I am at each moment of my life, doing what I love, being an expert in my field through using my gifts, talents and capacities while being in total joy with infinite abundance flowing through me as I share it with everyone around me.

Maya Angelou definition is - Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.

So ask yourself - what is your definition of success?

It makes me sad that there are people going out there every day "working hard" for success and they don't even know what that definition is for themselves.  Are you working toward success under the definition of societies beliefs of what success is?

Don't do it!  It is a trap!  One that will suck the energy and life right out of you.  Why?  Because you are not being true to you, you are falling into the collective consciousness and definition of what society thinks success is.  What if the pursuit of success could be fun, and easy?  What if we don't have to work hard.  Still with me?  Keep reading as I explain.  What if working hard is an illusion that is keeping us stuck, disempowered and unconscious?  What if it is keeping you from who you truly be?

When we look at truly successful people, like Oprah Winfrey or Ellen Degeneres it may look as though they are working hard, and they are!  But what if they are actually enjoying all of what they do, that it really doesn't feel that much like hard work?   But to the rest of us we judge it as working really hard?

You see the above quote makes me feel like people need a reminder or a push to keep going when they really don't want to.  That doesn't feel like a kindness to ourselves.  To push ourselves to keep going when we dread something.  It should feel natural and yes sometimes scary or exciting, but not dreadful!  There is a huge difference.

I believe there is a difference between working hard and enjoying what you do, that may look to others like you are working hard.  If you are doing what you love, that is a match to who you are as a being, with all of the gifts, talents and capacities you be.  Then you will not have to work a day in your life!  It will just look that way to other people!  Do you get what I am saying here?

Work shouldn't be work!  We should NOT be doing jobs we dislike just because it is good money.  That does not create more joy in this world!!  That does not bring out the light in you.  You should want to do it every time you do it, because it is easy and it flows for you.  Pure and simple!  So get your head out of the sand and start thinking about what your personal definition of success is.  Start asking questions around how to obtain that lifestyle and go for it!  It is a process, but nothing will happen unless you become more conscious of what it is that makes you come alive!

Stop falling into the trap of working 9-5, day in and day out, putting in your time.  That is living unconsciously and it is time to wake up.  What are you contributing to this world?  Do you really think that putting in time at the office to make a pay check is any way to live?  Just because the rest of society is doing it does NOT mean it is right.

The world was once believed to be flat, until someone realized that was not truth.  It took some time and some ridicule before this new concept was accepted as truth.  Do you think that maybe what I am saying here, is way different than what most people on this planet thinks?  Could there be truth in the fact that putting time in at a job that sucks your energy is living unconsciously?  What is your awareness?  Is there something more out there that is a match to who you be as an infinite being?  I think so, now what are you going to do about it?

Start with asking yourself some questions and awaken...

What is my definition of success? (please allow this to change and evolve as you do)
What else is possible here that I haven't yet considered?
How does it get any better than this?

What is Death? More Ease in this Transformative Process Comes with Understanding what Death is.

What is death?  Death is merely the ending of an old and beginning of a new.  This can be in anything in our lives.  Relationships, careers, material things too!  There is grief with any kind of loss, especially if it is sudden.

When we lose a loved one death is simply a transformation from the physical into the vastness of energy that we be as infinite beings.  It is always hard to say goodbye to those we love, and truly there is never a good time to say good bye!

We humans (earthlings) want to keep things the same forever or at least as long as we can, we resist change.  What we must remember is that each of us as an individual soul has a journey that is right for us.  Our loved ones who have passed are also choosing for their growth as an infinite being.  The time they had here has come to a close.  They have so much more to accomplish on the other side.  We get so caught up in the means that they chose to pass.  Be it an accident, illness, or suicide.  Ultimately it was their decision, their choice to leave the physical world to enter that of the spiritual.

The pain we have from loss is caused by our unwillingness to release and let go of what was.  The grief is the pain of knowing that things are changed forever.  If you are willing to work with it, the pain is less intense.  Especially if you are willing to do emotional release work and alternative healing therapies.  Learn tools that you can use on your own when emotions surface, as they will.  Especially when memories are triggered or events come along throughout the year.

Grief is a human emotion and something that we all go through at some point in our lives.  Like an injury to the body there will be pain.  In the beginning it will be most painful.  How we choose to deal with it is what can either help or hinder the emotional healing process.  There are so many good tools out there for emotional release and therapies for healing.  The choice too is yours.  Many are not open to trying these therapies because their unwillingness or call it stubbornness, prevents them from seeing another way.  There are always choices, hang on to what was and stay the same, or allow yourself to accept it, and see the gifts in the process of change, transformation and growth.

I have seen many souls who have passed, so that they can help their families connect more with their spiritual journey.  Still many are not open to it and fear that their belief system is going to be challenged and worse yet be shattered.  Maybe they fear being wrong, or that they might have to change in some way.  There is no right or wrong, there is simply we know what we know at the time and when we know more we can make better choices.  So why do people resist so much?  This is the big question.  What are people so afraid of?  They don't want to see that there is a whole other world out there waiting to open up.  You see it isn't only those in spirit who have had a change or transformation, those who are left here are also meant to go through change and transformation as well.

Life after losing a loved one, isn't about going through the motions of daily life trying to get by.  It is about truly learning how to let go.  To honour those who have passed and know that they are with us always and that they haven't really left they simply transformed.  You can still feel them, and sense them in a different way.  They do try to help us understand but we are too stubborn to have it any other way.  This only serves to block us from feeling their loving presence all around us.

Our purpose here in the death process when we lose a loved one, is healing and letting go of grief, our purpose is to let them go as they continue their journey as an infinite being.  Our new objective is to accept our new way of life no longer having them with us in the physical, but with us in spirit now on a higher realm and different reality.

No one said it is easy, but you must be willing to work through the process of letting go and continuing on your journey too.  Allow the change to move through you.  Allow the change to make you better than you were before.  Find your new normal as you continue to let your light shine.  Knowing you are never alone, they are with you always just in a different way.